B is for Be There … (#A-Z Challenge 2016)

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I was so angry and upset when my husband said he is not okay me going home for my delivery. For ages this has been a kind of norm in India to send a pregnant woman to her house in her 5th month or 7th month and let her stay till the baby turns  5 or 7 months or sometimes a year.

He said, “The baby is ours. I want to be with you and the baby every moment. I want to be with you when the baby bump grows, when she kicks you, when she moves, I want to sing to her, read for her. She is already in our lives. If being with your parents makes you happy, why don’t we call them over? Trust me, I will never give a chance to make you feel that you did a mistake by staying back.”

He lived up to his words. He took care of me every single day. He was with me at every visit to the doctor, ultra sounds, shopping, etc., He managed everything at home including cooking. He found a doctor who agreed him being with me ALL the time, from entry till exit.  He was in labour room rubbing my back to alleviate my pain. He was in the  Operation theater holding my hand while we welcomed our baby. No wonder my baby bonds better with him than me.

Now,  I feel that the best decision I have taken was to stay back and break some rules and norms set by society. That was one of the best times  of our life. He still makes sure to be with us at every smallest event. Vaccinations to walks in the park. When I say, I can manage if you are busy , the only answer I get is “I am never too busy for my family”.

By just by being there he took our love and relationship to another level of trust and faith.

Recently,  a very close relative of mine was diagnosed with cancer her husband was not there next to her when the report was confirmed by the doctor. He cannot do anything about her problem but at that time just being there  holding her  hand would have given her a lot of solace and confidence to fight her fear. He was not busy to be there but he did not expect the report to be positive.

I have seen many many parents who think certain events can be handled by his / her partner alone, or the kid alone. Like Parent teacher meetings, sports day or annual day at school. In many of the cases it’s ‘you this time and me next time’ or the stay at home parent who attends because the working parent has to go to work. I agree, it is not possible to be there all the time but you make sure when you can, you don’t miss.

THAT SMALLEST, INSIGNIFICANT  MOMENT MAY TURN  IN TO THE BIGGEST AND THE MOST IMPORTANT EVENT OF YOUR LIFE. YOU NEVER KNOW. SO BE THERE. SHOW YOU CARE.

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23 comments

  1. I love this. My kids are grown and moved out now, but I was the dad that always wanted to be there when I could be. I used to get upset with my wife because she would schedule her pregnancy doctor’s appointments on days when she knew I had to work. She didn’t do it on purpose, but she didn’t try to make sure I could be there. I really wanted to be. Everything is better when you can face things together.

    Visiting from A to Z.

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    1. Thank you for passing by Brett. I understand how you would be feeling. But, that’s okay till you love them wholeheartedly and they know it.

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  2. How wonderful to have a totally involved husband/father. My son-in-law is that way. At first he announced he would not do diapers, but the baby was almost 2 weeks old before my daughter changed the first diaper. He is smitten with that little girl.
    Visiting from A to Z ~

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    1. hahaha… diapers part is funny. Your daughter is lucky Wendy, just like me.God bless these awwesome men.

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  3. I love your ‘B post’ today! A great read and very inspirational. Thankfully, I too have a husband who is always there. Counting my blessings today. Thank you.

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    1. Thank you Christine for stopping by. I am glad you loved my post 🙂

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  4. I love this. After my dad had a stroke, I moved across country to be with him and my mom. I couldn’t do anything about it, just be there. Be support. This was a great post. I’ll be back! (found you through A-to-Z.) http://doesntspeakklingon.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you Red. I am glad you liked my post. When I read comment, I remembered my dad who also had a stroke in August 2015. I moved to be with mom and dad for 5 months. They loved my presence. Being there with my 2+yr daughter helped them smile more often.

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  5. Inspirational indeed. Blessings on your happy arrival.
    Happy A-Z!
    Kicking MS to the Curb
    Nickers and Ink Poetry and Humor
    Practically at Home
    (I’m doing 7 blogs for the A-Z Challenge this year, but those are a few.)

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    1. Whoa! Whoa!Whoa! 7 blogs? I must visit and see all blogs. Where do I find all 7? Could you please send me the link? and, thanks for visiting my blog Linda.

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  6. such a lesson you teach in this post! I love the fact that you recognize this wonderful gift given to you by your sweet husband- it makes your marriage even more special.

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    1. Thank you Kathe, for visiting my blog. I am glad you liked my post. Yes, my husband is the best gift I received from God.

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  7. That’s so lovely that he wanted to be with you and support you. It’s not often we find partners that willing and it’s something we should praise and talk about so it becomes more the norm.

    ~Patricia Lynne aka Patricia Josephine~
    Story Dam
    Patricia Lynne, Indie Author

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  8. I love that idea – be there is so important. I love that your husband stood for what he wanted and believed in and followed through. Great thanks for sharing.
    Kathryn Discovering Daisies

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    1. Thank you Kathryn, for taking time to read my post. Hope to see you here again.

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  9. good one Sarah 🙂 !!

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    1. Thank you Indu. I am glad you liked it 🙂

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  10. Aw that’s beautiful, you gave a great husband!

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  11. Yes, indeed. Thank you Miss Andi for passing by.

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  12. Wow, this is so true. I loved that my husband stayed with me in the delivery room even though he said he was scared he was going to faint. He stayed through all 36 hours, holding my hand, wiping my forehead. You brought back wonderful memories with your post. Thank you.

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    1. Nice to know that you have a great husband. Such a nice gesture to be there even after knowing that it’s tough for him to face it. In India allowing husband inside labour room is just started few years back else it was just an all ladies affair.

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    2. I am glad that my post made you recall some wonderful moments in your life. That’s the purpose of my theme and blog.

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  13. What a wise man your husband is!

    @cassmob from
    Family History Across The Seas

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