I was very young when this incident happened. I was in school. One summer noon one of my cousins who is almost 14 years elder to me had come with her husband and three children ( 1 daughter and 2 sons). Next morning they all got ready to go to my aunt’s house except their daughter. My cousin came to the girl, kept a rupee coin in her hand said, ” we will be back tomorrow morning. Be a good girl and play, Granny will take care of you”. The girl, standing in her light green dress had tears in her eyes. When I asked my mom the reason for not taking the girl along with them, she said, because the girl is DARK. I was shocked. I was furious and shouted at my mother for allowing them to do so. She said she tried her best to convince them but her dad did not agree at all. My aunt to whose house they had gone, never liked dark people so these guys weren’t comfortable taking her along.
Do I need to continue the incident ? I think I shouldn’t as they never changed and so is my aunt. The girl got married to a FAIR guy and her two sons are fair and handsome and people in the village think she is lucky. I agree. She is lucky for getting a husband who did not believe in skin colour.
Like these parents could not accept her colour, many do not accept a girl child, a child with special needs or a partner with some health problems. In India it is common to abort a baby girl or just throw her in a bin or drainage after her birth. Last week, when I met a lady who is educated and well settled and successful in her profession. I was shaken when she said her husband left her and settled with another lady just because this lady was diagnosed with a tumor in her spine and he felt she is of no use.
If you are someone who is reading this and have difficulty in accepting people and loving them as they are, its time to introspect and see the disabilities you have and realize how graciously your parents, siblings , partner and friends have accepted you. God made everything beautiful. Accept everyone unconditionally.